L.O.V.EEEEEE

Morning Folks, 

     So usually I'm not the one to post about Love, Relationships, etc.: Most times Britt and Jill take care of the emotional side of this blog. Lol. #thuglife

But I was talking to my mentor, and the conversation switched to Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness... We were talking about the difference in relationships back in the day, and relationships now.  I was telling her of my own trust issues and how I acquired them.The thing that stood out the most in our conversation was when she said that Every time you get with a person, your going to have to teach yourself to that person, they'll have to learn what you like, what you don't like, what makes you happy, sad, etc.: For example, If you've been with a person for a couple years, throughout these years you've taught yourself to this person. They obviously know you if you've been dealing with each other for this amount of time. So if every time we started a new relationship we kept in mind how much of ourselves we would have to reteach to this new person it would start to seem like a better idea to add these issues to the list of things you don't like, and work through them.  Don't base a relationship on the best days, or the worst days, but the average days. Learn how to argue. Arguments aren't screaming matches in which whoever is the loudest wins. Nope. An argument is just a fancy disagreement.

That made me think. We sometimes get so caught up on how easy it is to move on, or to get someone different. When the whole time the only person who we're affecting is ourselves. Once you learn love and decide to love a person for everything that makes them that person (Flaws and All) the process of actually loving will become more understanding. Love is more than sex. Love is more than a relationship status on facebook. Love is serious. 

Now of course I'm not saying force yourself to stay with a person because of how long y'all been together.. BUT I am saying if somewhere in there you have a little hope that things can and will change, stick with it. Make your relationship work for you. After the thrill of being in a new relationship is over that's usually where it all starts. I think its important to keep a relationship fresh. Surprises, Date Nights, Showing Affection, Conversation, all of that!! Just keep it new! If you keep your relationship new, you might not need a new one.