Finding TRUE Love

Relationships, marriage, and loyalty seems to be the topic of most conversations these days. Everyone is either down playing relationships, in mad love or searching for love and affection, needing someone who is loyal. We will rush into relationships before even knowing the person. Something we've all heard before, how can you love someone else, if you can't love yourself. So many are chasing love when they don't even truly understand love. The need to feel loved and being in love has driven many women and men to settle. Sex has cause many to believe that they are in love when in fact they are infatuated with the pleasure they feel when with that person. Sex does not equate to love. Rushing into relationships can end with happily ever afters x first love stories or deadly nightmares with a horror story to tell. Do you knw who your inviting into your life? Your children's lives? How many of us have said " they just changed all of a sudden" you could be living with a controlling psychopath waiting for the moment that sets him off. You wouldn't know because you didn't take the time to find out. Many times unfortunately this is how women end up in abusive relationships, ignoring the warning signs and red flags. Cant we just date with no sex involved, get to know each other and build from there. Why must we rush to label things. We pray and pray for the perfect mate but what if that person was put in your face, are you ready to receive that person. Can you handle being in that relationship? A man seeks out his wife, but a man shouldn't be seeking a wife until he can handle the responsibilities of being a man and the head of his home. Ladies its ok to be by his side and stay "loyal" but don't be a fool. Women the sane go fir you, you shouldn't be trying to be someone's wife until you fully understand your role in the relationship and are ready to accept being the woman he needs. If you cant take care of yourself how dare you ask a man to take on responsibility of providing for you? what are you bringing to the table? Putting God first in your relationship is important but putting God first in your own personal life's is as equally important. Until you can understand to love as God loves us unconditional and how to love one another in the same manner you will constantly go from relationship to relationship searching for love.....BC